Proverbs 18:1-2, 22-24 (ESV)

[1] Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire;

he breaks out against all sound judgment.

[2] A fool takes no pleasure in understanding,

but only in expressing his opinion.

[22] He who finds a wife finds a good thing

and obtains favor from the LORD.

[23] The poor use entreaties,

but the rich answer roughly.

[24] A man of many companions may come to ruin,

but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

There are two major themes that run through this chapter, the power of words and the value of good companions. Our words are powerful. They can demonstrate narcissistic self-focus, or humble servitude. They can stir up strife or bring about peace. They can seek knowledge or spout foolishness. They can gain favor and honor, or shame, disgrace, and trouble. As believers our words ought to be expressed in humility. They ought to lift up rather than tear down. Our words ought to reflect Christ in all we do and bring honor to God whom we serve. Too often that is not true. Too often we are more interested in impressing people with what we know than in learning what we do not know. Too often in my life I have spoken out authoritatively telling someone about a place or idea only to discover that they know more about it than I do. Hasty words are the product of a fool. We need to learn to listen.

That is where the right companions come in. Those who are self-absorbed tend to isolate themselves from others either intentionally or unintentionally. Those who are wise surround themselves with wise counselors and learn to see value in the wisdom and experience of others. Those who are all about self like to impress people with their own greatness. Those who are wise understand the difference between companions who are there for what they can get out of you and those who are genuine friends. I recall in grade school a classmate was not particularly popular, so he started bringing packs of gum to school. He passed gum out to everyone and became extremely popular until the gum ran out. But we were not true friends. We just wanted a stick of gum. Kids can be cruel, but adults are no better.

“He who finds a wife finds a good thing” (Prov 18:22). “There is a friend who sticks closer than a brother” (Prov 18:24). By contrast, “Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire; he breaks out against all sound judgment” (Prov 18:1). Wise words and good companions are closely connected. The Christian life was never intended to be lived alone. It was always intended to be lived in community. That is why good companions are so important. With our words do we build up those around us, or advertise our own greatness? With our words do we tear down and isolate, or serve, build, and heal? Who are the companions you are walking this path of faith with, and how do your words affect them? May God teach us the value of godly companions and words of humility, mercy, grace, and peace.